Thought for the Week of July 9, 2012

"Life Well Lived"

As I get older, time seems to move faster. When I was a little guy, it seemed that Christmas took FOREVER to come around. Now the family celebrations seem to be clicking by way too fast.

One of the unfortunate things about aging, is the increased frequency of friends and family that pass on to the next plane of existence.

This past week, a guy that I went to high school with, and only a few years older than I, died suddenly from either a heart ailment, or a heat stroke. Another old friend from my home town, was diagnosed with cancer, and was told he has four weeks to live. Last month, a dear friend and fellow pastor, was told she had stage IV kidney cancer.  Last year starting last week I lost four family members. Uncle Carl, my Grandmother Lahoma, my Aunt Winona, then my Brother-in-law Marty Reece.

Mr. Hess, whom received the prognosis of advanced cancer this past week was one of the adults that had a positive influence on my life as a young man growing up in McLean, Texas. I grew up on a cattle ranch, and had worked with the adults since I was old enough to ride a horse. As I got older, I grew restless in my jobs at the ranch, and wanted to work for someone other than family. Mr. Hess was good enough to give me a job at his family farm and ranch operation. I learned that work was still work and best efforts were still expected, but that kindness was still kindness. Jakey, as he was called by his contemporaries, was always helping people out with money, or a job, or some food, and a lot of times he was never paid what he was owed, but he never stopped giving to those in need. I had the opportunity to have a great conversation with Mr. Hess a couple of years ago when my Dad had some medical challenges. Jakey was in one of the first classes that my mother taught in McLean, and through some rough times for both of our families Jakey and my parents always maintained a respectful and special friendship. I was at my mothers house working in her yard one weekend, and Jakey drove by, and took time to stop and talk for a few minutes. We chatted about this and that, then he told me how much he cared for my dad, and mom, and how he had always had great affection for them both. I took the chance to remind him that he was very kind to me when I was a teenage boy, struggling to find my identity, and how he helped in that process. It was one of those rare occasions where God allowed us the time and space to say the important things that so often go unsaid.

God rest your soul Jake Hess II. You were loved by many, and will be sorely missed in my home town.

Yes, I am a patriot.

It occurred to me, while reading the reactions to the passage of the Health Care Reform Act, that finally, after the previous nine Presidents of the United States failed to bring healthcare reform, we now can make the U.S. citizenry take personal responsibility, for their own heath care.  I will never understand why people take any news publication, or opinion at face value especially when the position is tenuous at best.

For the first time in the history of this great country of ours, we are putting an end to those that have taken advantage of the people that take responsibility for themselves, and forcing those without healthcare to at least pitch-in some money which should go toward the healthcare expenses incurred by every single tax payer.

I'm not sure if people just don't understand that we, as health care consumers have been paying for those that don't take personal responsibility for their own healthcare, or if there is such hatred for the President that if he were to come out for Oxygen, people would begin to suffocate themselves.

The conservative position is that everyone should take responsibility for their own well-being, which is exactly what will happen with "Obamacare". The conservatives are now against this law.

The individual mandate was the idea of the Heritage Foundation in 1996, one of the most conservative "think tanks" that exists. As Governor, Mitt Romney was for it then, and modeled his states healthcare reform based on the individual mandate. Now he has come out against it because it is a "new tax". Again, you and I have been paying that money in the form of higher healthcare costs for years. The individual mandate, shifts that cost from you and I and places it rightly so, on those without insurance.

As a proud citizen of the United States, I would like to proffer a suggestion. How about instead of having a non-thinking, knee jerk reaction built on misinformation and spin from "news" organizations like Fox news, stop and do some research on what the bill actually does for America. I'm not sure if that is possible for some because some people never learned to research a topic, and find both pro's and con's then make a conclusion based on their own original thoughts.

Again, I come back to the fact that as a tax payer, I'd rather my dollars go to educate all of the people in this country, rather than corporate welfare, for those not willing to pay the price for their mistakes born of greed, and worshiping money as their god.

Yes this country has problems, and both sides of the ideological spectrum have ideas on how to fix them. How about we focus on the good things about the USA, and not the fear mongering, and hate speech creating the divide which only seems to be growing. Find some common ground, be open to new thoughts, and both sides of an issue. You may find that when all is said and done, you aren't as far removed from each other as you thought.
God Bless America!!

Thought for the Week of June 25, 2012

"Comfort Zone"

.."yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes." ~James 4:14

"What's holding your back?" Said my mentor, friend, and confidant. "What are you afraid of?" he continued. "Come on man, you don't want to be one of the meek, scared people in this world that never learn to push themselves, then live a life full of regrets do you?" That was enough for me to re-set my resolve, and continue without giving fear a foothold in my mind. I never will forget that conversation, and remember that moment as the day I took responsibility for my successes and failures, finally realizing it was my choice, and only my choice to make.

I have found myself avoiding things that would take me out of my comfort zone several times in my life, sometimes I still do, but for different reasons than the fear of the unknown. Of course we all have to balance risk and return, weigh the positive and the negative outcomes, but I can't tell you how often I let my mind create a justification for not doing something, then later wishing I had summoned the courage to move forward. When I look at life from the perspective of being "a mist that appears for a little time.." I recall the old saying of "Who's going to care in a hundred years". With faith in God, and an ear in tune with the Holy Spirit, courage to move forward with what is presented, is not nearly as hard to choose.

Choose to let God's love shine through you this week. Tell someone what you love about him or her today. Take that chance; you may be surprised at the return.

Peace and Grace!!


Scott

Thought for the Week of June 4, 2012

“Impedance”

I was very blessed to grow up on a working cattle ranch in Texas. As a child, I thought it was just horrible being way out in the country, not having other kids to play with all the time, and having to go work with the grown men. I had no idea the life-long lessons I learned then, would be with me, and influence decisions to the degree, which they have.

The experience of working with large animals was something most kids in my community shared. There was a learned respect for cattle and horses simply because they were ten times larger than the average person was, and if you were not careful how you moved and handled yourself, you would probably get hurt, possibly even killed. Being in a position where it was you and that animal in a pen, the threat of injury or death very present, and being tasked with accomplishing something with that animal that might not be natural for the animal, presented a daunting challenge to a young person. Learning to position yourself, carry a certain posture, and make the right amount of noise at the right time, accompanied with appropriate arm waiving, was critical to the successful disposition of the animal.

We had a few renegade head of cattle that seemed to have an attitude of obstinacy. You could follow all of the methodology you had learned from watching the adults, and sometimes be successful in manipulating the old cow into the proper alley, then to the proper pen. However, some would rather run over you than follow your direction. It was important to read the body language of an animal, to know when it was time to head for the fence, and get to safety. Thankfully, those animal personalities were the exception rather than the rule. I always wanted to find a way to communicate with the animals that what I was trying to get them to do was not going to hurt them, and that in fact, it was in their best interest to follow my instructional gestations. It was highly frustrating at times to be making a substantial effort in a hot, dusty, and odor rich environment and not achieve the result desired. The cattle became frustrated or at least agitated as well, because they had to start over, and go through the process of being sorted into the right area.

I had a God moment back then, and realized that what I was trying to do with the cattle was exactly what God was doing by sending His Son to live and walk among us. God can’t force us to go the direction He wants us to go, but He sure can waive His arms, make noise, and position Himself in a way to help guide us to a better place. I’ve spent years of my life playing the role of the obstinate cow, not looking for God, my head down, and headed to where I wanted to go. I’ve even run over, knocked down, and kicked at, a few people that I didn’t see as re-presenting Christ.

At the end of the day, my pain, frustration, regrets, and emptiness, were because of not following God’s will for my life. Do not get in your own way in your journey. The cliché “Let go and Let God” is ever true in my life. When I have attempted to shut God out, and take it from here, I end up having to go through a process again. It was frustrating, but necessary. God will win, as it should be, so kick up your feet and go with the stream of living water that is taking you to His will for your life.

Peace and Grace!!

Scott 

Thought for the Week of May 28, 2012

"Balance Part II"

Passion and conviction have at times caused my purpose to become a little less clear than I would prefer. When I feel strongly about an idea, I have to remember to breath, and remain centered in peace. Sometimes I fail. When I don't fail, the exchange of thoughts and ideas flow without or at least with less tension. Coming from a place of balance, grace and peace helps to create an open and more accepting reception to what might otherwise be a contentious exchange.

Our ego demands that we be "the winner". In reality, both parties growing in relationship and understanding, is the best result, and the closer path to re-presenting Christ.

When I was young, I remember a former boss saying she did not like my attitude. I didn't understand, because we had minimal conversation. Emotional energy was something that I was just beginning to understand.

Having balance in verbal and non- verbal communications is how perceptions are created related to "who" we are, and what value we have to the people we interact with on a daily basis. It's hard if not impossible to hide emotional energy from those perceptive enough to recognize the whole person, yet some people are oblivious, as I once was, to that existence. I once read somewhere that non-verbal communication is 80% responsible for the successful exchange of information. 

Being open and hospitable, even vulnerable to everyone with whom we come in contact, is a conscious choice and is not sometimes our natural ego driven pre-disposition.

Be mindful of your whole presence. It's not hard to offer a smile, or a kind gesture. Try it and see if your day doesn't go just a little better.  I had a discussion with a friend about Karma, and even though it’s an “Eastern” philosophy, it makes sense to me. Just like most things in life, whatever you put out there, is what you get back. That philosophy makes me mindful and very thankful for God’s grace. J

“And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.”

~2 Corinthians 12:9 New American Standard Version

Peace and Grace!!!

Scott

Thought for the Week of May 7, 2012

"Transition in Stability"

Every year this time is emotionally charged for many people because of major transitions in reality, direction, and life in general. It is the end of a school year, the time for new appointments in all of the conferences in the United Methodist Church for clergy, and the transition time from Spring to Summer. Do you ever find yourself feeling less than "on top" during transition periods? I know I have. Watching people I love going through the changes during this time causes me to reflect on my path, both past and the possibilities for the future. This year because of the relationships I have created, was really less stable for me, than any previous years, at least that is my perception. 

During this emotional downward spiral, while praying hard for some relief and guidance, I kept getting the thought to just let it go. Just let it go. Just let it go, I've got this.. sounds simple.. not sure why it was not. I was able to figure out why I was feeling the way I was, and I did have to let go of things that I was cycling and processing in my mind, to get to the point of understanding where this mental state originated . I don't know how common of an occurrence it is for other people, but sometimes I find myself overwhelmed with change, commitments, deadlines, circumstance, and a nagging hyper self-critical voice, all my own creation.

How do you handle being overwhelmed? Where do you find your stability in times of transition? I am blessed with a strong network of support in the form of associates, family and friends. If it weren't for the people that truly love me, it would be unlikely if not impossible for me to function at a level that would be acceptable to me. Letting go, turning it over to God, with the understanding that the Creator is truly in control, and that I need to walk in faith, was the lesson that I needed to re-learn this weekend. 

It's true that I do have a big "S" on my chest, but it stands for "Surrendered", not for "Superman". Indeed I have surrendered all to God, I just need to be reminded of that at times. God has provided, once again, the solution to my pain and turmoil, even before I knew I needed a solution.

God is SO good.

Celebrate coming transitions in your life and know that you will carry on. Do not hesitate to reach out to those that love you, including your family of faith at St. Luke's. God will provide. Just remember to breath and that you are unconditionally loved.

"He replied, "What is impossible for people is possible with God." ~ Luke 18:27 NLT

Peace and Grace

Scott

Thought for the Week of April 30, 2012

This Saturday, an older man using a walker approached me at the gas station. He asked if I could spare 4 dollars for bus fare. I told him no but, I would be glad to give him a ride. He asked if I would mind stopping by the KFC on the way to get some chicken to take home to his sister, and daughter who were staying with him. I had to be somewhere at 2, and it was a little after 1, so I thought.. hey.. sure why not. We loaded up his walker, and headed for the KFC. He said he'd be right back, and went in to the kfc. I sat for a minute, and then decided I should probably go in as well. He had ordered a bucket of chicken, which is all the money he had, so I told him to order what he wanted, and I'd take care of it. When we got to his apartment on the other side of town, he pointed out a guy that was lurking over in the corner of the parking lot. He said  "See that guy over there, he's really down on his luck and homeless. I got some of the extra food for him, because he's not right in the head because of the Gulf War, he can't pay for his medicine, and doesn't eat often." 

He said he needed money to keep his lights on, and I referred him to a number he can call for public assistance. His story was long and sad, but very believable. Apparently, he had been well employed until an appendicitis surgery went wrong. He ended up sicker, and then had a stroke, while recovering he had a heart attack. Lost his job, and health coverage, and is depending on public assistance for his medical needs. All of this, and he was still giving charity to someone less fortunate than he was.


What I got from this, is no matter where you are in life, you can help someone, if you are open to the opportunities that God puts in front of you. 


Love one another, all the laws hinge on this one.

Thought for the Week of April 24, 2012

"Wherever two or more are gathered"

It is amazing to me how gatherings of individuals can create an energy feedback loop which can have an effect on the overall gathering, and the individuals participating. Since my first experience with an emotion filled worship service as a child, then witnessing the Vietnam anti-war protests, then later participating in organized sports, the fact that individuals in unity of purpose or mind can create something so much bigger than the sum of their parts, has helped me understand the importance of relationship.

I came across this reading today titled "The Power of Union" from the "Daily OM"  (http://www.dailyom.com/)

"The purpose of partnership is to create something greater than we can create alone. Not because of any deficiency or incompleteness in us, but because each of us is unique, with our own talents and abilities, and in partnership we increase the efforts and talents available for creating something meaningful together. All partnerships, whether romantic, creative, or professionally-based, can be powerful relationships for personal growth. In partnership we harness the power of union."

Do you have a solid partnership? Do you have someone you can count on no matter what the circumstances? I am very blessed to have a network of support from family and friends both new and old, from which I can draw strength, support, and inspiration. I expressed my thankfulness to a friend for being present through a particularly tough time. What she said to me was simple, but so true. She said "To have a good friend, you have to be a good friend. My love for you is a product of the investment that we have both deposited into our relationship "account"."

I thank God every day that my relationship with the Creator is not set up like an account. I have been bought and paid for by Jesus Christ, no balance owed. By following Jesus, (not worshiping Jesus, but actually following his teachings) life does go much more smoothly. How blessed are we?

If you are on a journey to understand God, the Church, religion, spirituality, relationships, or yourself better, come join us in our quest. We are all on a journey, come join with use and experience the "power of union".

There are two singles Sunday School classes that meet each Sunday for the 20-30's crowd, and one for us older singles at 10:50 in room 208.

Reach out to any of the staff for more information.

Peace and Grace!!!

Scott

Thought for the Week of April 15, 2012

"Connections"

Dr. Long often uses the phrase family of faith to describe St. Luke's. I have always considered "the church" to be an inclusive group of all of those that follow Christ. I was speaking with a friend last week about our first experiences at St. Luke's. They are considering becoming a member of our family of faith, so I shared my first impressions of St. Luke's. I remember walking in the door, receiving immediate eye contact, and a welcoming smile from several of the folks in the Narthex. I had visited several churches in Oklahoma City, and the openly friendly reception from St. Luke’s was a new experience. After becoming a member, subsequently joining the staff as singles director, then continuing as a candidate for ordination, I found that the goal set forth from the executive team at St. Luke's is to be aggressively friendly. Perhaps that is why I felt "at home" when I first visited St. Luke's.

I recently read a dear friend of mines writings about being open, and sharing God's love. She used the example of a child that she provides care for on a regular basis. The child’s attitude when meeting other children that she has not met previously, is one of open love and no prejudice from her limited past experience. The child approaches the other children with a greeting of "Hello Friend"!!! How wonderful would it be if everyone had the same level of hospitality in all of their daily contacts with other people, both familiar and not familiar? Not always literally saying "Hello Friend", but having an open heart, and mind free of prejudice and fear of the unknown. THAT to me is sharing God's love.

In order to share something you must have a connection to, and experience of, that “something” before you can pass it on to others. St. Luke's gives me that connection to God's love. Early this Sunday morning I lost another family member, and while processing this new reality, the only thing I was sure of, was that I needed to go to church to get loved on by my family of faith. I went to church, a little late, and a little "out of whack", and I was loved on every time I stood still for a moment. I did not share with many what had happened, because I did not have a good handle on my grief at that point in time, but it didn't matter, I was still loved on. To me, THAT is the perfect example modeling your life after Christ. Always coming from love, always sharing yourself and the love God has in abundance. What a great collection of people God brought together at St. Luke's. I've been blessed so many times by my family of faith.

Are you searching? Are you ready to make a change? We are here to help.

Rev. Sharen Hale is the pastor of St. Lukes connections ministry.

Her focus is to make sure that everyone is availed the opportunity to "plug in" to the areas for which they are searching. Whether you need to be loved on, or to find someplace to share your love, talents or passion, or if you are in a place where you just want to be, Rev. Hale can help.

Next Saturday April 28th, we will be heading over to help our friends at Christ UMC to assist with their mission activities.

Details coming next week!!

Don't forget, each Sunday at 10:50, Singles Harmony Bible study meets in room 208 for a discussion surrounding the scripture chosen for each week's sermon.

Peace and Grace!

Scott

Thought for the Week of April 9, 2012

"Free Will"

  

One of the earliest sayings I can remember hearing is "nothing is certain, except death and taxes". I was about 6 when I heard that old adage for the first time, and remember thinking.. well.. that's pretty bleak.. what else is there. I asked my Granddad, what about the sun? He said the sun could and would one day run out of fuel and go dark, but not for a long time. I thought and thought, but couldn't come up with anything that was for sure. It wasn't until later in my childhood when I began a relationship with God, that I knew there was something else that was an absolute. Using the parameters of proof didn't work, but I still knew and I was sure. Some things are pretty much set in stone, no matter what we do, think, feel or decide. Whether you choose to acknowledge God or not, the Creator is still there, and part of your life. John Wesley called that presence, prevenient grace.

  

God gave us free will, to make choices about what we know for sure, and accept, and what we don't know for sure, and accept. I believe everyone is where they are because of the choices and decisions surrounding those choices. Sometimes a bad decision, or a good decision, can alter your life permanently, and sometimes the weight of that decision isn't clear at the time the decision is made. Making choices in my life has become a whole degree easier with my closer relationship with God. Now I feel like if I listen, be still, and remain open to doing His will with complete surrender, how can I go wrong? When I don't listen to Him, is when the trouble starts.

  

I choose to be obedient, and have faith that as long as I am doing my part, God will do the part of the Universe. I will be capable and ready to rise to any challenge put before me as long as I am surrendered to the Creators' will.

  

What does your decision process look like? What are the sure things in your life? When making a decision, do you have the freedom of coming from love, or are you shackled from fear? There was a time in my life that I was so afraid of messing up, that I would be stuck in analysis paralysis way too long, and sometimes make a decision so late, that the opportunities which awaited had forever changed at least, and evaporated at worst.

  

"Yeshua gazed at them and he said to them, “This is impossible with the children of men, but everything is possible with God.”

~ Matthew 19:26 ...Aramaic Bible in Plain English

  

Be brave. Stretch your comfort zone with the knowledge that the Creator of the universe is guiding you. With that how could you fail?

  

This Week:

  

Friday Night on the Town. Zorbas NW 60th and May 7:00 pm

Saturday:

Clean up at Christ UMC this Saturday the 14th. Contact Rev. Linda Truitt lindatruitt73013@yahoo.com to rvsp, and for details.

Rev. Scott Raines

Pastor of Singles Ministry

St. Luke's UMC

222 NW 15th St.

Oklahoma City, OK  73103

Church 405-609-1009

Cell 512-554-1661

sraines@stlukesokc.org

www.stlukesokc.org

Thought for the Week of March 12, 2012

"Pride and Prejudice"

Henri Nouwen talks about moving from hostility to hospitality as a tenant of spiritual development.

Taking an honest assessment of my reactions in every day situations uncovered some ugly truths about me, that I really did not appreciate. I found myself quite offended by me.

Like many of you, I think of myself as a "nice person", and most of the time can at least muster a smile, and emote in a pleasant manner, friendly at pretty much any time, whether I'm really feeling it or not. Digging deeper into why I react, or feel the way I do in different situations, and understanding where those feelings come from, has helped me to truly be more open and hospitable at all times. Once again, our friend FEAR, was the root of my negative prejudices. F.E.A.R. Forget. Everything. And. Run. Or hide, or act unapproachable.

One of the most important things in the New Testament, and contained in three of the gospel writings is the conversation about  "The most important law"

Luke 10:27-28 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself" “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”

 How do you react when you see someone different than  you. Race, Gender, Political affiliation, Religion, Nationality, Poor, Homeless? Does FEAR rule your heart? Or are you coming from love?

Thought for the Week of April 2, 2012

"The Passion"  

   

Many times I have wondered how Jesus was able to remain obedient to God during the horrible trials he suffered during the week before he was sacrificed as the lamb of God.  

I have had difficulty remaining obedient to God when the sacrifice is nothing compared to being beaten, spat upon, humiliated, then forced to die a horrible, painful and slow death. This week my older brother Thacker shared a story during his sermon about a friends sons' first T-ball game. The boy was to be the pitcher in the game, after he ran out to the pitchers mound, he turned around and yelled, "Daddy, is this where I am supposed to be?" Jesus in his despair, asked the same of our Father. "Daddy, is this where I am supposed to be?"  

   

Thacker also wondered about how the people of the time could go from celebrating the Kings triumphant return, to demanding Jesus be crucified. Talk about "Passive/Aggressive".. It's a fact of life that sometimes things are not what you expect them to be. How do you deal with that when it happens? Do you become angry and feel betrayed, seeking revenge? Do you try to place blame on others for not being what you expected them to be? Or do you understand that your expectations were not realistic, and learn from that, when forming expectations of things to come?  

   

Having realistic expectations is key to living a life of faith. Not knowing exactly what may happen, but having faith that you can expect, without a shadow of a doubt, that God will be there, is life giving.  

   

Come join us at St. Luke's as we celebrate Holy week. Visit our site athttp://www.stlukesokc.org/  

   

There is something going on every day this week. Come join this family of faith, and find the love and grace which can be expected.  

   

   

Peace!  

Thought for the Week of March 5, 2012

"Really?"

I have been guilty of having high expectations of my friends, family, and coworker, to the point of being unrealistic. When reality presents itself through others unfairly expected "shortcomings", I tend to be a little too judgmental, disappointed, and sometimes surprised when my unrealistic expectations are not met. In Henri Nouwen's book "Reaching Out: The Three Movements of the Spiritual Life" The second movement: From Hostility to Hospitality, Nouwen suggests being grounded in reality, and knowing our own patterns "can be recognized by anyone who is striving to live a life in the Spirit of Jesus Christ".  I WANT to accept those people in my life just as they are, but my personal history and experience keeps creeping into my thought process. Looking back, most of the times that I've been "hurt by others", I realize now that it was because of my own preconceived ideas of what should happen, while the scope of reality for that person did not include room for my delusional expectations. 

I borrowed the following from "The Daily OM" http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2/2012/32560.html

"Disillusionment can plague your relationships today if the standards and expectations you hold your loved ones to are unreasonable. Putting individuals and your relationships on a pedestal can bring you heartbreak as people’s natural flaws interfere with your dreams of perfection. You can ease the disappointment you may feel and divest yourself of cynicism by accepting that no one is perfect. The truth of humanity’s fallibility can help you avoid being unduly affected by the flaws you see in your family, friends, and colleagues. You may find it becomes easier to concentrate on the goodness in the people around you today when your expectations are reasonable. When you see people making mistakes, you’ll likely feel more comfortable overlooking their errors and forgiving them.

When you are tolerant of flaws in others, you will judge your relationships realistically and thus appreciate the good in people rather than reflecting on the bad. Unrealistic expectations can make relating to others difficult because they set impossible standards and force us to focus on the negative aspects of the individuals around us. It becomes vastly easier to look at other beings as complete entities when you accept that no one is perfect and that everyone will make mistakes from time to time. You won’t experience a rude awakening when loved ones don’t fulfill your expectations. You’ll judge others based on the whole of their character rather than on a chance word or deed. You’ll be able to focus on the goodness in others today when you accept that everyone has flaws."

Forgive quickly, ask for forgiveness without expectation, and always remember the most important instruction from Christ.

"Jesus replied, “The most important one is Israel, listen! Our God is the one Lord, ³⁰ and you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your being, with all your mind, and with all your strength. The second is this, You will love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these." ~ Mark 12:29-31 (CEB)

Peace and Grace!

Scott

Events:

WNA Night at the Movies this week will be "The Ten Commandments" Dr. Long will be using passages from this classic to illustrate a Lenten lesson. Apricot Chicken, Wild Rice, Asparagus, Rolls, Salad and Dessert is served beginning at 5:15, with the program beginning at 6:30

Singles Invitation.

The Good Egg Dining Group (Cheevers, Republic Gastropub etc.) is holding a Chef's Dinner on Monday, March 19th at 6:30 pm, at Red Primesteak, 504 North Broadway. Seating is limited; please RSVP as soon as possible if you would like to attend. Tickets are $110, and benefit "Positive Tomorrows" 

Rev. Scott Raines

Pastor of Singles Ministry

St. Luke's UMC

222 NW 15th St.

Oklahoma City, OK  73103

Church 405-609-1009

Cell 512-554-1661

sraines@stlukesokc.org

www.stlukesokc.org

Susan Koopman

Singles Missions/Outreach Coordinator

Cell 405-202-9909

singlesmissions@stlukesokc.org

Visit my blog:

http://pastorraines.blogspot.com/

Thought for the Week of February 27, 2012

Courage

     Courage comes in many forms. Our world is full of courageous examples, from the grandiose well publicized events in the news, to the unknown, unannounced acts of the "least of these".    

        The soldiers in the field, firefighters, law enforcement, and the other peace keepers in society sign up to provide service to others knowing that courage is something they must be ready to display, as it is part of their duty and oath. I am most impressed by the acts of courage by those that must overcome fear unexpectedly, or summon the ability to defend a position taken with grace sans emotion, or be brave enough to pull your entire belief system out of your being, for re-examination. 

         Jesus displays courage throughout the gospels, as do his disciples. I try to imagine what it was like to be a follower of Jesus while everyone around you was of a different allegiance. Jesus was aligned to neither the Jewish, or Roman society, and I'm sure that his followers were thought to be "strange" at minimum. One of the great quotes from the Harry Potter series is: "It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to your enemies, but a great deal more to stand up to your friends." Having the courage to stand up to your friends is imperative if we are to cause the ones we love to stop, and think about what they may be doing or saying that is not reflective of the instructions we have received from God, to love your neighbor as yourself. Maybe we just need to understand the thought process behind our neighbors actions better, in order to get past our own internal roadblocks to loving.

         It takes courage to make an internal paradigm shift. I've had a few "Wow, how could I be so wrong" moments of clarity in my life, and recently, it seems they come more often than they ever have in my personal history. Not big external issues, but how I internalize, and process events I see every day. Digging into why I think, feel and react the way I do with things has spurred sometimes painful growth, and peace at the same time. Being a single Christian involves some complicated thought processes especially when it comes to sexuality. I am beginning a journey to dig deeper into my belief system to determine why I have made some of the choices I have in my life, and address those root causes for the decisions I have made. I hope to have enough understanding of the dynamics of Sex and the Single Christian to offer a gathering this Summer for discussions surrounding sex and being a single Christian. It's difficult being a celibate single Christian in today's society, together we can grow in our faith and understanding surrounding this topic. 

        How is your courage? Can you take an honest look at where you are in your spiritual journey, and figure out where you might need to spend introspective energy? Have you, like I have, taken solace and comfort in minimizing events that have happened in your life by writing them off as more the fault of someone else? Do you have the courage to accept responsibility for your part, and apologize to those harmed? It's really a hard thing to do, but it gets easier with practice of which, I have had a lot. I will be writing more on my blog about my journey into my own sexuality, and how my growth experience progresses.  http://pastorraines.blogspot.com/

Grace and Peace!

Scott

If you are interested in hearing a courageous speaker on the topic of Justice. Join me at OCU for the Distinguished Speaker series. Michael Sandel, a Harvard Professor and the author of "Justice: What's the Right Thing To Do" begins his presentation at 7:30 at the Petree Recital Hall, in the Kirkpatrick Fine Arts Center. Let me know if you would like to attend, and join in discussion afterwards.  More information at http://www.okcu.edu/speakers/upcoming.aspx

Tonight is WNA Night at the movies. Supper starts at 5:15, and the movie begins at 6:30

This year we are offering an amazing way to grow in your faith during Lent.

For six weeks leading up to Easter we hope you’ll join us at Wednesday Night Alive at the Movies. Each Wednesday from February 29 to March 28 we will enjoy a meal together followed by lesson from a St. Luke’s minister. The minister will incorporate clips from famous religious movies to illustrate an Lenten lesson.

• February 28 - Phil Greenwald- Fiddler on the Roof
• March 7 - Bob Long - 10 Commandments
• March 14 - Linda Brinkworth - Finding Nemo
• March 21 - Drew Haynes - Chronicles of Narnia
• March 28 - Wendy Lambert - Passion of the Christ 

We will conclude our Lenten series on April 4th with a live performance of the Living Last Supper in the Christian Life Center.

Singles Harmony Bible study will continue to meet at 10:50 in room 208.

Thought for the Week of Feb 20, 2012

"Choices"

 

The small choices we make, around what may seem to be little things, can make a huge difference in life.

I once read that: "we are what we have been becoming."

 

God's word is pretty clear in that we "reap what we sew".

 

As a young man, I did not realize that some of the choices I was making at that time would still be effecting my life in middle age.

 

I have had the opportunity to reflect on decisions made in my younger days, in hopes of gaining a better understanding of some of my relationships with younger people. Relating honestly to those in my "circle of influence", without prejudice, and with compassion, always requires an open and loving spirit. To get to that point, I must deal with my baggage, choices/results, and experiences. I must understand that I may still be carrying residual effects surrounding particular events and situations in my life, which may be similar to the situation at hand. As we all do, I have the privilege to "re-present" Christ, and I do not want to get it wrong. Honest self assessment is crucial to the process of growing emotionally and spiritually. Do I always get it right? Nope, but .. That is where I see God's grace in my life more often than not.

 

Being more thoughtful and introspective as I approach my physical life's' terminal date, I think my decision making process has vastly improved over what it was as a young man. In the bad ole days, carnal drives, egocentric concerns, and selfish needs were the overwhelming factor in a lot of the decisions I made. I equate those decisions now as lasting as long as a physical tattoo, but as an emotional/spiritual tattoo. Tattoo's can be removed, but it takes some work, and a Master tattoo remover.

 

Surrendering to do the will of God has really simplified the choices I am faced with at this point in my life. A new rubric, process, or set of standards has simplified decision making for me related to choices for my life. Perfection? Not even close, but I am pointed in the right direction.

 

Everyone has there own set of rules, filters, or a checklist used for decision making. How much power to you give to your fear?

Where is God in your decision process? Do you also have some bad choices in your past, that still have a negative impact on your life? Are you growing emotionally and spiritually? Have you forgiven yourself?

 

"Everyone has issues, everyone has baggage" is something that I have heard over and over again as a single person active in the dating pool. My question is, what actions, or plans are in place to address those issues/baggage?

 

Tomorrow night the Rebuilders group begins at St. Luke's. I went through this program hoping to learn why I was afraid to get into another relationship. I found the answer, and took appropriate steps to resolve my fears.

 

Wednesday, February 22nd, from 6:45 to 9 pm in room 205 at St. Luke's United Methodist Church.

When a relationship ends it can be very difficult. The class is based on the book "Rebuilding After Your Relationship Ends" by Dr. Bruce Fisher, and is taught by Steve deQuevedo, a licensed counselor, mediator and national trainer in conflict resolution. He has many years of experience in helping people understand blocks that stand in the way of loving, fulfilling relationships.

Registration is available online at stlukesokc.org or by calling the church office at 232-1371. Childcare is available upon request.

Looking for suggestions for Singles Harmony Bible study. I am looking at "Feasting on the Word" series.

Also, looking for suggestions for the Fall Wednesday Night Alive relationship class.

I am thinking of leading a group on the book "Boundaries" or the follow up "Beyond Boundaries" The books are about healing past relationships, and moving on into a healthier state of being. Let me know in which you would have the most interest. The WNA group will, once again, be open to everyone regardless of relationship status.  

 

 

 

 

 

Rev. Scott Raines

Pastor of Singles Ministry

St. Luke's UMC

222 NW 15th St.

Oklahoma City, OK  73103

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Thought for the Week of February 6, 2012

Down time.

My Son's first song to be publicly released by a record label is called "Down Time" The bridge of the song says, "all I really need is some down time". I remember the day he wrote that song, and it was very fitting then, as it is today. Life demands as much attention as we can give, and sometimes more. I've struggled through the years balancing all of the things I need to do, all of the things I want to do, with all of the things I HAVE to do. Sometimes taking time for myself is what gets sacrificed, which is not a good thing. I have to be intentional about scheduling time for prayer and mediation each morning before I leave the house for work. Doing so means that I must get up 30 minutes earlier but it is so worth the time I spend, to find my center each day.

Someone asked me last week why my life was so funny. I explained that I did not think my life was any funnier than anyone else's, it is just that I have learned to choose to  laugh at things that others might see as less than humorous, or even tragic. I come by it honestly however.  I vividly remember standing with a crowd of people in front of the ranch house when I was 12. The conversation among the friends and family was muted, as we stood there, in fact it was oddly quiet for my bunch. Some were crying, and some were making nervous quiet conversation as we watched our home burn to the ground. My Dad, spoke up and said. "Who brought the wieners and buns for this wiener roast?" I never will forget how everyone laughed at his joke, and were amazed that even during this tragedy, he wanted to ease the pain of others through humor. I learned an important lesson that day about possessions and priorities and how they should or should not affect your life. There were real treasures in that house that had been passed from generation to generation, antiques from before the turn of the century, musical instruments that had belonged to long since past war heroes in the family, and a collection of guns that people still speak of today. Things that could not be replaced. We were all alive, and that was all important.

Granddad always said to think about "who's going to care in 100 years?" How you treat your friends and family, and the people in your circle of influence is much more important than getting "things" done, or doing things to get more things. I have learned that trying to fit everything in that needs to be done, should always take a lower priority to seeing everyone that needs to be seen. Relationships and memories of those relationships are the only things that last.

How are you finding your balance? What takes priority in your life? Do you choose to do "something" important, rather than be with someone which to you should be important? Do you have something you need to let go of in relation to someone from your past? Do you spend all of your time doing things to avoid the things that really matter in life? Of that, I must confess, I am guilty. People ask why I am still single, and my answer for years has been. "I'm too busy for a relationship." eh.. maybe not so much.

Are you building the memories and relationships you will enjoy when memories are the majority of your focus each day? Where are your priorities? How's that working for you?

Make someone's day this week. Thank them for being.

WNA two weeks left for classes. Supper at 5:15, with class at 6:30-7:30 My group will be discussing the final four chapters of the book "The Five Love Languages"

Singles Harmony Bible Study at 10:50 Sunday morning in room 208. We've got a good group started, come join us for discussions of gratitude, and the weekly scripture lesson.

Grace and Peace!!!

Scott

Thought for the week of January 30, 2012

Growing Pains.  

   

For those of you that have been blessed with children, "growing pains" are something that you are probably familiar with from the experience of the rapid growth of those children.  

As adults, we continue to grow, but instead of the pains from rapid physical growth, pain can come from emotional and spiritual growth.  

   

Some of life's lessons are just hard, and there is no way around that fact. As a pastor in the making, going through the long involved, and intense process, I've experienced some major challenges with my identity of who I am internally and to others. Some of the problems and issues with which I have been presented, I have failed miserably. I have failed myself, the other person(s), and God. Recognizing that failure, and accepting that failure hurt, as it should. Once I realized, and re-evaluated my actions, or inactions, I have found that I have grown in my understanding of God's expectations, others expectations, and my own expectations. In all circumstances, I have experienced God's grace in that I have been given the opportunity to make amends, and have done, or am doing so. I am very blessed that I have the chance to make things "right". Discerning God in the things that happen in your life is sometimes challenging, but can be done through prayer, and honest self assessment, after you have suspended your ego.  

   

Many of us recognize that growth is continual through life. To experience growth, you have to start somewhere. Fully understanding and evaluating past experiences, is the basis for which new growth is launched. Spiritual growth, just like personal growth takes intention. If you want to move ahead in your profession, or personal life, you have to learn new things. Spiritual growth is no different. If you don't like where you are, change what you are doing, or thinking.  

   

I recently posted something on face book about the fruits of the spirit as listed in Galatians 5: 22 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." Eating fruit salad is much better tasting than eating crow. But, sometimes you have to eat a little crow, or humble pie, to make things right. In my case, had I been acting in spirit, I would be enjoying "fruit salad" instead of crow. Lesson learned, growth achieved. Self expectations re-set, and most importantly, self forgiveness accomplished.  

   

Oddly enough, one of the emailed devotionals I received today was along the same lines as what I've been experiencing this week. This is taken from Daily Meditation: Living a Whole Life for Jan 31rst. You can read the whole message here:  (http://myemail.constantcontact.com/Daily-Meditation--Living-a-Whole-Life----Jan--31--2012.html?soid=1103098668616&aid=UwUMFPy1GKs   ) "The principle is this: transcendence means including the previous stages. Then you can see the limited—but real—value of the early stages. But you will no longer put too much energy into just looking good, making money, feeling secure at all costs, and making sure you are right and others are wrong. That’s what it means to grow up, and Christians need to grow up just like everybody else."  

   

What's your growth plan? Starting by making a list of the things you are grateful for is not a bad way to begin your growth journey.  

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WNA is going full steam: "The 5 Love Languages" study has been a blast to lead.  

Come enjoy a meal for $5 starting at 5:15 - 6:30, then choose one of 15 plus classes to attend ranging from home repairs, to the more ethereal subject matter.  

   

Singles Harmony Bible Study at 10:50 Sunday mornings is going great. Al will be leading the study this week, as I have family obligations in Texas, which have called me away.  

   

Free Zumba at Christ UMC on NE 17th and Kelley Saturdays at 1 pm. Great fun and great exercise!!  

   

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Have a Blessed Week!!!!  

Peace and Grace!!  

Scott  

Thought for the week of January 23, 2012

While discussing Paul's writings with a couple of family members this weekend, the topic of flesh vs. spirit came up, and led to some interesting points. I believe that when Paul spoke of "flesh", he was referring to ego, more than he was the physical body. Ego and spirit are indeed separate, but in my opinion, matter and spirit are inextricably connected. More and more I see studies, and evidence of the link between positive thought, and well being.

When struggling with a decision in life, I've found that sometimes the best thing to do is to be still enough for the spirit to come through, and guide me, maybe in tiny increments toward the right choice. Our Ego tends to get in the way, and can cloud our discernment of God's will for our lives.

As Dr. Long continues his sermon series on 365 days of gratitude, remember that gratitude unexpressed is useless. Find someone that has done something positive for you, been there for you, or helped you in some way, and tell them thank you. By lifting someone else, you will receive a lift yourself.

Wednesday we continue our discussion of "The 5 Love Languages"  during the WNA class. We are having a blast digging into our relationship communications, and learning how to improve the way we relate to each other at home, work, and church.

Singles Harmony Bible study will be continuing our study on gratitude this Sunday at 10:50 in room 208.

Hope to see you there.

Be Blessed!!

Scott